Last month I put being a better friend and making new ones as two of my ambitions for 2008, without going into detail. That's because I didn't have a detailed idea of how to go about it. Is it better to be totally honest or hold something back and never hurt their feelings, for example. To me it means there has to be a spark, an enjoyment of each others company.
According to a study reported in the Telegraph (Women better at friendships, says survey) there are some differences in how friendships are conducted by either sex, although these differences should not be exaggerated and other factors contribute. Nasty manipulative friendships exist in either sex as do deep long lasting friendships. However more likely than not they are likely to be from the same sex and be "deeper and more moral" if your a woman.
A good guide on eight ways to be a better friend has been written by Susie Michelle Cortright (Eight ways to be a better friend). They are expanded upon in the link but they are essentially.
- Like yourself.
- Choose wisely.
- Make the time.
- Make the first move.
- The Golden Rule. (Treat your friends as you wish to be treated).
- Sweat the Small Stuff.
- Be loyal.