Tuesday, 20 March 2018

Trans Fetishes

When it comes to transvestic fetishism there is a degree of kink shaming not just in wider society but also within the trans community. Whether it ranges from underdressing to engaging in sexual activity as/with someone dressed there still is a tut and a no way. And to those anti-trans fantasists out there, they are not planning to jump into the ladies toilet the first chance they get, we're more worried about you coming in and trying to make some point because its where scaremongering really doesn't meet any evidence.

Yours truly is not innocent of this either, some of this was to do with feeling the need to deobjectify / desexualise your identity, but in a society where trans visibility is greater then ever and not limited to seedy transformation services and the adult video shelf there is no need there days.  I do not want to see your willy in or out of knickers but there are many who do and as long as the content is marked as sensitive and shared with other consenting adults offline or online then it's only a problem if it causes a problem.

Sunday, 11 March 2018


Hope you're well. It's was a little cold, going beyond my usual winter outfits which have served me well during the comparatively mild winters of recent years but not an artic blast and then changing back to spring like in a very short period.

Another month another trans film, time was I would have watched it all in the same way I would have any Superhero/ comic book movie but these days a glut of both means I tend to pick and choose with the latter and avoid with the former. This time its the turn of ITV News (Tonight: 'Trans Kids - the Right Response?) focusing on the rise in referrals to the Tavistock GIC and those youth of today and their refusal to accept ridged gender constructs all of which would annoy the baffling number of terf's following me on Twitter.

Drag Queens is also a current topic, thanks to, what can be best described as Ru Paul's unhelpful/ outdated comments. Language, both queerness and labels has evolved, the "drag queens" mentioned in reports of the Stonewall riots would be more accurately described along the trans spectrum and even that may change in another few years. When you search media around the time this blog started "transgendered" was still a commonly used work

Friday, 9 February 2018


A little late finishing this, busy etc etc.

I started January on my sick bed having finally succumbed and drifting in and out of feverish states. There's still a Christmas pudding in the cupboard which body could face at the time and now nobody feels quite seasonal enough to eat. Although we have got through the chocolates and wine. It's about the time the media is full of healthy recipes and abstaining (apparently 3 million are participating in dry January). It also led me to add quinoa to the long list of things I've pronounced wrongly in my head having previously picked it it up and not having had to verbally order it.

Drifted away from my generally androgynous bits and tried on some more dressy type outfits not having been anywhere for a while my social anxiety kicked in. Also tried to find out what the fuss about contorting was, and concluded it was a good idea but still a work in progress. Found my scrap book, which reminded me is been a while since I've added anything new, so that's one excuse to be looking for some day out /event to go to.

Take care and have a good kissmas and pancake day.

Monday, 1 January 2018


Light the fuse, pop those poppers, lets go for another year.

Hope you have a good one. x

Sunday, 31 December 2017

End of Year

I was planning to write more (or at least a bit) between Christmas and new year but illness kicked in.

Elsewhere publications are compiling their best of list, usually a top ten or top 8 if you are trying far hard to be too hipsterish/ cool for school by reviewing comic books for Vice. I haven't read/ seen an extensive range of new releases to give a authoritative list though like always there's good, there's bad and one by one every shoegaze band from the 80's/90's will reform.

Monday, 25 December 2017

No More Sleeps

Have a great time, to those feeling lonely or isolated remember you never are, people are here to see you through.

Friday, 22 December 2017

Last Friday

The last Friday before Christmas apparently has been dubbed black / frantic/ mad/ black eye Friday (depending on which publications you look at) when the bars are packed with parties / post work meet ups and is more than a little busy for the emergency services. A quick news search reveals some sites declared last Friday black/ mad/ black eye Friday as well meaning they get to run the same piece twice so festive trebles all round!  Most years I tend to avoid such parties, being slightly introverted and sharing nothing with my colleagues other than a confined space for part of the week.

I also enjoy having to order without having to deploy my sharp elbows and having chairs and tables available surrounded by people I enjoy being round and can hear talking. In other words I'm going out during January-land.

Wednesday, 20 December 2017

Face Masks

Sales of facial beauty masks have been booming in recent years. Whether peel off or the more recent Asian inspired sheet masks, they can come with eye-watering prices but there are cheap alternatives or incredibly simple to make your own. The good thing about the latter is that its easy to adjust to your own needs and cut out what you're allergic to. Most of the recipes mention avocado, other fruits and cupboard staples so you've also got a delicious snack after you've ripped it off you're face.

Tuesday, 19 December 2017


In a sign that Partridge wannabes have taken over television commissioning, Channel 5 screened a show entitled Britain's Favourite Biscuit and in a further sign that democracy doesn't work the winner was the chocolate digestive and people voted for Jaffa Cakes despite the name giving a clue as to why it should be disqualified. As any right thinking person knows (ie me) the correct top three is chocolate hobnobs, plain hobnobs and jammy dodgers, with honourable mentions for the chocolate finger, Club biscuit and party rings.

Saturday, 16 December 2017

Underplayed Christmas Songs

So everyone's making their sleigh list and most will contain the same 30 - 40 songs, while nearly all are perfectly well crafted pieces of popular music (I'd suggest Merry Christmas (War is Over) is by a very wide margin not one of Lennon's best) hearing them several times a day makes them lose their lustre.

Some like Ann Charleston & Ian Smith's (AKA Madge and Harold Old Fashioned Christmas are not very good while Jim Davidson's cover of White Christmas will be exercised because of MASSIVE RACISM, (if you haven't heard it, yes he does the voice). Here's some alternatives I like.

Erasure.  She Wont Be Home

The Carpenters – Merry Christmas Darling,

Mel & Kim – Rockin’ Around the Christmas Tree
When it gets shown on TV these days there's a clunky edit, can you guess where?

 Frank Sidebottom - Oh Blimey it's Christmas

Friday, 15 December 2017


Been trying to think of something to write about but all that's in my head at the moment is Peggy Sue by Buddy Holly coincidently there was a documentary repeated on Radio 4 Extra  this week about earworms, what makes a earworm and the power on of such tunes on our psyche.

It was also school nativity time and my niece had nabbed a speaking part causing a small amount of pride from her parents, being a C of E school it was strictly traditional unlike the one I took part in where our teacher cast me as a spider (non speaking, of course).

Thursday, 14 December 2017

Snow Ho Ho

Snow doesn't fall that often where I live, by the time it finishes depositing on the nearby hills and downs there's none left, Sunday was different. For children it meant making use of the surrounding hills to go sledging, one or two had a properly designed sledge but everyone else used what they could find, in many cases this was the lid of a recycling bin but also involved anything else they could get their hands on as long as it could go down the hill at breakneck speeds. For others it involved complaining that the council should miraculously clear the roads with snow ploughs that wouldn't be used most years and only a day or two the years it does. We made a snowman, chucked snowballs and lost feeling in our toes that has only just returned.

Tuesday, 12 December 2017

Over and Over

This is Blart playing the same few mor songs over and over... and over.

I once had a summer factory job in the 90s which had its predecessor station on constantly and had a similarly tiny play-list which barely changed over the weeks. It's constant diet of Simply Red, Boyzone and U2 became torture by the end of it.

Monday, 11 December 2017

One Brussels Sprout

Brussels sprouts are much maligned and target for the easy joke and blamed for the outbreak of farting after the Christmas meal. The chemical that creates the gas is supposedly a deterrent to stop an assortment of pests from killing them. Although its sister veggies like cabbage and broccoli also have the same effect and they always escape blame.  There also blamed for the way they're cooked as if its still before the 90's and everything has to have the life boiled out of them, there are many ways to cook them, go on have a search, I'll wait.

Friday, 8 December 2017

Hate Mobs

Following up from the last post which mentioned bullying comes the sad but depressingly familiar tale of a online anti trans hate mob sparked by parts of the UK media acting as enablers for usual transphobic hate mob towards a young trans woman. What's even more depressing is the ferocity in this example which would test those with the best coping mechanisms let alone a teenager.