Now that I've done my soap box thing the picture is of Queen Christina of Sweden the 17th century lesbian gender non conforming and a bit of a bad ass. Made bids for the crown's of Naples and Poland after her abdication in Sweden (they could tolerate the crushing hard on another woman, not marrying thing but converting to Catholicism in a Protestant Lutheran country was a bit of a no no). Rumoured to be intersex (no evidence) and on the autistic spectrum (debatable) she was a great patron of the arts but not someone to get into a fight with.
Friday, 30 April 2021
Wednesday, 31 March 2021
31 Match marks trans day of visibility, more a celebration of trans, non binary and gender non conforming people's. The internet has been a way of being seen for a few decades now.
I did think of marking this by going retro with a millennial style Geocities trans blog with a lilac background with purple lettering and a photo gallery that takes 15 minutes to load. It was the first time many got to connect with others like them especially outside major cities. Like other marginalised groups it's become a way to tell our story past, present and future beyond the stereotypes in our own way.
Sunday, 14 March 2021
Sunday, 14 February 2021
Happy pointless hallmark holiday designed to make you spend money on unnecessary items. Yes I'm single, how did you guess?
I wrote a few things last year about how to date a trans person when the world and their partner were flocking to online dating. Now many months on when everyone is a bit more jaded it still stays true.
Saturday, 16 January 2021
Already a few days into the new year and apparently I'm helping to erase lesbianism.
*Checks trans list*
If the might of centuries of cishet culture couldn't erase lesbians what hope would a minority marginalised group have.
As for lesbian's, they're going to be alright even without the phony concern of the transphobes alliance and the right wing press.
Friday, 15 January 2021
Also the Caramel Bunny was just pure filthy.
Monday, 11 January 2021
Friday, 25 December 2020
Thursday, 24 December 2020
Happy Christmas eve. We're truly in the bleak midwinter I'm with a frozen Woo Woo, basically tasting like an adult Slush Puppy.
Elsewhere I'm sure many of you have read Elliot Page's elequent and passionate coming out letter, essentially the sort of thing I wish I wrote all those years ago. As you'd expect some people had a problem with this for some reason which probably says more about them.
Monday, 21 December 2020
Seeing Eddie Izzard trending, I'm reminded of when I was a young and Eddie Izzard burst onto my screen. Watching I saw someone confidently smashing gender stereotypes and wearing whatever along with a highly creative and above all, funny act. She was an inspiration to a confused baby trans and in many ways still is to an older (but still often confused) trans.
Sunday, 20 December 2020
Was in the fortunate position of being able to take a duvet day Friday for my mental health I could feel the signs building and decided to push everything non urgent into the future, make sure I had a supply of Jammie Dodgers and turn off my alarm.
Thursday, 17 December 2020
Thinking back to disagreeable customers many will end with something like " well I'm shopping at (insert competitor) from now on" which I think they believe has any devastating impact on the harassed, under paid and non managerial person on the other end. In my time it was the welcome signal that they were about to leave.
Sunday, 13 December 2020
Card payment systems were down locally, frustrating undoubtedly and necessitating a visit to the cash point but it's not the fault the fault of the young woman on the till who earns only a few pennies above minimum wage and has definitely had to deal with a lot of crap this year. Yet some people continue to act like a dock.
Thursday, 10 December 2020
When someone describes their workplace in terms like "needing a sense of humour" my mind starts flashing giant red flags before my eyes. What sort of bullying hell hole is it I wonder, the sort that constantly sends you out to get tartan paint or engages in tedious bants all the time. We tend to laugh less once we hit the mid 20s and the workplace is the main reason for that. So it's great of you can have a laugh, for mental well-being most of all, but if you have to point it out, them it's nothing of the sort.
Sunday, 6 December 2020
With an eye for the different I picked up After Eights with strawberry and mint.
It's rather disappointed, I couldn't take much strawberry and their wasn't that nice minty tasting filling. Instead you get that horrible mix which doesn't really work.