The new year, its a time to look forward. But it is hard sometimes not to look back on some events and feel some regret. Also to consider the person that might have been or your lost possible self. The could haves can have a debilitating effect, I have many where if I took that path I may have been a better person. An excellent article (link) explains how regret can change as you get older, and how the perspective these lost selves are seen can affect the emotional impact of these memories.